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Date Or Die : The Relationship Lifeline

• Sylvester & Jasmeka Wilson • Season 1 • Episode 13

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Can a simple date night save your relationship? Join us in this episode of the Relationships 101 Podcast as we share our own comical yet enlightening journey through early marriage—starting with a fallen mirror that led to a deeper understanding of each other's needs. We'll reveal how the little things, like budget-friendly park visits and car rides, can make a big difference in maintaining a dynamic and fulfilling relationship. Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, you'll learn how stepping out of the daily grind can help keep the spark alive.

Navigating the balance between socializing and personal boundaries can be tricky, especially when one partner loves to go out while the other prefers staying in. In this episode, we dig into the art of compromise and setting boundaries to ensure both partners feel valued and connected. By sharing our own experiences and the lessons we've learned, we hope to help you prevent feelings of isolation and strengthen your bond. You'll gain insights into why quality time spent alone is just as crucial as social activities in maintaining a healthy relationship.

As we celebrate our 13th episode, we reflect on the milestones we've achieved and the growth we've experienced. From the editing process to the invaluable feedback from our listeners, we are committed to bringing you even more valuable content. We'll also introduce a fun challenge for couples to share their dating adventures on social media, with a chance to win a sponsored date. Join us in celebrating the importance of dating, understanding social dynamics, and continually nurturing your relationship.

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Sylvester:

Welcome to Relationships 101 Podcast, where we share experiences to help newlyweds and aspiring newlyweds understand the importance of a healthy relationship so that they can thrive in this world called married life. Welcome, welcome, welcome. This is Relationships 101 podcast. I am your host, Sylvester Wilson. That was something falling in the background and this is your host.

JasMeka:

JasMeka. Co-host Jasmine Wilson.

Sylvester:

Oh yeah.

JasMeka:

Yeah, we just got to talk about what failed. Listen, we start in where we are Right. We had a mirror taped up to the printer and that thing just fumbled, but we're going to believe that it's going to go through the entire time, the things that we got to do to get this thing to y'all.

Sylvester:

You know what I'm saying It'll be consistent.

Sylvester:

I got to do to get this thing to y'all. You know what I'm saying. Okay, but when we started off it was not good. We, we, we wasn't the best we. We wasn't good at this, at this relationship. Then we was not good with it. I can remember going through a counseling period. I think it was was our first counseling. Rest in peace, Pastor Lloyd. He told us that we need to start dating. We had a bunch of frustrations about one another, Telling them this, telling them that we used to tell them each other Keep a little snitch.

JasMeka:

He ain't do this, she ain't do that. We used to tell them each other Keep a little snitch.

Sylvester:

He ain't do this, she ain't do that. It just came down to hey, y'all need to start dating, Are y'all dating? We're like nah, and for one. When I look back, I'm like so what do we do after that? Because we ain't have no money. You know what I'm saying. So how did we actually pull that off? We had to actually want to, really.

JasMeka:

I think those were the park dates yeah, I think we went to the park a lot, um, probably the corner store, walked to the corner store, got some snacks, yeah, then went to the park I don't remember and and probably the movies. It was affordable back then. I think we did the movies.

Sylvester:

Yeah, movies, movies and that definitely was our Chili's days. And we did car dates before COVID.

JasMeka:

Yeah, we will Eat a meal in the car.

Sylvester:

We definitely eat a meal in the car and chill, yeah, but it was important he, he saw fit to tell us that because us, being new um at relationships and trying to, you know, make this thing work it. We did not know and understand how important it was for us to go out together, experience new settings and put ourselves in new environments and, you know, build on those experiences together. We didn't know that.

JasMeka:

When we probably was talking to him, he probably just pictured rats like just confined to this thing and just running crazy like aggravated with each other Like y'all just sound like kids stuck in the house in the room and now y'all got issues. Y'all just see the problem with each other. So he's like nah, y'all need to go outside, y'all need to date, y'all need to let y'all head out, y'all need to find a babysitter for the kids and just date definitely so today's topic, we're talking about the importance of dating in a relationship.

JasMeka:

Some people believe that they don't need to date, or they don't, you know, it's not needed for their relationship, but this one over here. I need to go outside, I need to um, I need to get cute.

Sylvester:

Yeah.

JasMeka:

I need to one, two step a little bit to release some stress.

Sylvester:

And I knew that, though that's something that I knew coming into it. Well, I should have known. But even though I had that information, I knew that she liked to go out. That's not something that I actually even I don't know. That ain't something I applied. I didn't apply that information to the relationship. You know what I'm saying. So the fact that we were not dating at that particular time, just wrapped up in the day-to-day, wrapped up in, you know, just day-to-day getting it done, you know you get lost in that and you forget to step outside of that. And that's really what dating provides, I feel like in a relationship. It provides somewhere, in a way, to step out of the day to day, the norm, the rat race of a relationship. Relationships have rat races. You know what I'm saying. I mean you, Some people like it, though.

JasMeka:

Some people like the mundane type of day. Like they like anything spontaneous or new, they'll freak out.

Sylvester:

I think that depends on the type of personality that you're dealing with with people. So for the most part I would like to say that most people they have two opposites that they're with Somebody's either introvert and somebody that either.

JasMeka:

I hit the mic on that.

Sylvester:

Somebody's either, uh either, uh uh, introvert and somebody's either extrovert.

Sylvester:

And if you're an introvert, agree with me right now, Like yeah, but it's different though, because she's an introvert that likes to. You're an introvert that likes to dance, so if I just was taking you at the fact that she's she's an introvert like, then I would think that you cool with not going out, but that's not the case, right? You still need to go out to be able to get that side of you that you actually enjoy, which is dancing. It may be some, it may be a lot. I'm sure there's a lot of introverts that have a part of them or something that they like doing that will cause them to go outside, and even if they only go outside for that, they may be married to or in a committed relationship with an extrovert who loves going out.

JasMeka:

You're an extrovert though, babe, but you're not like one of those that need to go out. Like you love people, but you've been around people a little too long. You'd be like all right, babe, when we leaving, like I'm ready to go back into this shell that you could be in.

Sylvester:

Because I give so much in those environments that you get tired. Now I need to go recharge and I enjoy my inside time. I enjoy that.

JasMeka:

I enjoy my inside time. I enjoy that.

JasMeka:

I think, being an extrovert comes with boundaries though, because in a relationship, being the outgoing person that you are, it can be misread or the person could try to control that person because, hey, you're a little too friendly, hey, that's personal space zone. So I think being an extrovert, you kind of don't know, because you just you're not thinking about anything that's inappropriate, you just spreading love to the people. So I think being married to an introvert, it's like no, you got to relearn boundaries. It's just like I got to open up, open up to come on bae, talk to the people, fix the, the rb face right. So it's like I I think relationships can thrive if it just come with boundaries, like not me trying to put restrictions on you because my fear of my insecurity, but just genuine, you know, genuinely educating you on bae, that kind of was appropriate.

Sylvester:

Like bae, you're doing a little too much inappropriate.

JasMeka:

You're right, or, bae, you're doing too much. I think those conversations needed to be had, because if an introvert marry an extrovert, they're gonna try to keep you inside because they're afraid to let you out true so that's why some couples don't go on those dates or don't put their spouse in the environment because of their insecurity and their fears and their spouse not having boundaries.

Sylvester:

And then, in turn, now you're living with a spouse who is not happy Like they're not happy, right, like they may be putting up with it, they may be tolerating it, like they may be putting up with it, they may be tolerating it, but they're not truly happy if they crave social interaction or new settings, new experiences, which dating provides old school or you know some people just locked into that rat race, the way it's just. And we was like that before home work, church, kids, you know what I'm saying, and that was it. And for a minute, for a while, that was enough for us. But then, as the relationship grows, we grow and it needs to start to express itself in other ways, and dating does that too. Some people may be more adventurous. They might go on adventurous type dates, right, you know what I'm saying?

JasMeka:

They want to go climb out. Yeah, I'm still trying to wait till you like jump out the plane with me.

Sylvester:

Yeah, yeah, you can keep waiting on that, and some people they're more formal.

JasMeka:

You need to go watch that compromise video. Huh, you need video.

Sylvester:

You need to go watch that compromise video that we did because you did not compromise with me on that topic. You just throw it away, everything incompromisable, it's not? We can find balance some other way, I'm sure um so, but interestingly enough, I know a guy who I spoke to a co-worker, greg, and he told me that him and his wife both enjoy just staying inside. It could be a day where they are.

JasMeka:

Shout out to Greg Y'all saving a lot of money for it.

Sylvester:

Right, it could be a day when they're both off from work and it's like okay, babe, where you want to go.

JasMeka:

What's their age? Like their age range, if you don't mind sharing.

Sylvester:

Like ours, like 40, early 40s to 30s. You know what I'm saying.

JasMeka:

You can't do it.

Sylvester:

But they just, you know, but that's an anomaly, that's a very small percentage of couples that has that same, you know, personality type when it comes to going out. So they don't need to like they, they would rather choose. Even if he gave her an option, sometimes she had most of I mean a lot of times, according to him, she'll be like oh no'd rather, just let's just stay in, and they'll stay in, they can find they can date. So obviously people like that they date inside of their home, which is no problem at all. No, if you can do that, right, but if just by any chance, right, um, that other person, one of you guys, actually craves, um, experiences outside of the home, experiences outside of the home, interactions outside of the home, then you got to compromise. Give them what they want.

JasMeka:

Yeah, so let's jump out the plane. We not jumping out of the plane, we not jumping out of the plane, though we not. But shout out to Greg now I don't think that could work over here, because and that's so important why you can't compare your relationship to somebody else's, Just because we outside having fun. Greg and Miss, whoever they don't want to be, miss Gooden. They don't want to be outside, so it don't work for them. But that don't work for me.

Sylvester:

Right, right and um. That's why we always, you know, preach that each, each relationship is custom made yeah, because we were.

JasMeka:

We preach. We also preach dating is important, but you saying they dating inside their home and it works yeah, I mean it's still dating.

Sylvester:

All right, they still getting as long as you can get what it is that your relationships needs, like I wonder what I wonder if you get a different benefit from going outside the home dating rather than being inside the home I mean, I'm sure, outside period, but you know you may do other things outside, like ride bikes right you may do other things outside, so it's not like you don't need to go outside to date like you got got people that you know, but it's just as long as you're feeding that, fulfilling that, whatever it is that you need.

Sylvester:

As far as dating goes, however, you get it done.

JasMeka:

Can I make a suggestion? Can y'all date like outside, under the tree, sometimes Just taking yourself out of that home confinement? If y'all open to the suggestion, if y'all are listening, date outside vitamin d fresh air I mean, no, they go on bike rides together and stuff like that what I'm saying.

Sylvester:

Like they handle that different way yeah, no, no, they handle it different ways. They get it done different ways. It's just a different configuration than what somebody else might be getting done. That's why I say the bottom line is it's getting done though. Right, it may not look like what yours look like, but but we're doing it. Exactly, exactly.

JasMeka:

I kind of like that.

Sylvester:

I might should adopt it for like three months to save some money. That's nice. It's nice, um, I mean, I'm not opposed to that.

JasMeka:

We've uh done bike ride. But there's actually some research and I wanted to share it that we pulled up when we were talking about. You know the importance of it. So the american um psychological association found that individuals in a healthy relationship tend to have higher self-esteem and better mental health oh really also 84 percent um.

JasMeka:

They did a survey and 84 percent of respondents reporting that dating improved their communication style wow, interesting so something in that dating, I think it make you feel good, it make you like it's just a feeling that you get when you go on a date I mean it's, it's a human thing.

Sylvester:

like I said, some people may, uh, may, argue. Some couples like you know a half of a couple, may argue that, um, you know, like, why do you need to I give you all the attention you need? Like, why do you need other people's attention? And da-da-da, and that may be your insecurity, speaking miss or sir, because some people just I don't see anything with somebody getting. They may just want it's something too that you get when you walk in the building with your, you know, with your person, right, y'all step in and you know people like they, like how y'all look together. That's that's, that's an attention that that fulfills something for a person. It may not be like direct attention to somebody, like sweating her like or sweating him like that. It's just direct attention to somebody sweating her or sweating him like that. It's just, I want to look good with you in public. Can we do that? Can we do that, you know?

JasMeka:

Something with tanks.

Sylvester:

So introverts, extroverts, let's look into what it is. How did you that person? Where did you get them from? You know what I'm saying? What toilet bowl you dragged them out of? Uh, you just got to take that into account. Like if you met them in the club nine times out of ten, they still gonna want a club. It's just with you. It's different now. They're not in there on a single vibe, no more. But then let me tell you what could mess it up now. What could mess it up?

Sylvester:

this is kind of like a pain point for dating within a marriage. Um, I don't know If you got one of y'all. That's still kind of like standing on business they standing on how they feel about not going out. And that's just not me, it's not just you, no more, it's y'all. So you're going to have to shed that off because what you do is you end up forcing your mate to go out with their friends more often and most of the times, all their friends ain't married a lot of times.

Sylvester:

Come on now. A lot of times, uh, most of their friends are still single and now it ain't saying there's something wrong with with your mate, like being married and going out with your single friends, not saying that at all. You know your boundaries. However, if this is the only thing they're doing, you feel what I'm saying Birds of a feather flock together and you don't want them to fall into some type of single activity because they only go out with single people who doing single things Like you, can't expect her friends or his friends to act married just because they're around your spouse so you're saying it's important for the spouse that don't like to go out to try to go out sometimes.

JasMeka:

Yeah, oh yeah, for the sake of that spouse that loves to go out yes yeah, I think about. A lot of violation do happen there, like Like I don't go nowhere, I don't want to go out, I'm a homebody, I'm just this, and then you got this guy or female that like to dress up, step out. It's kind of like an open entry for violation to take place because he's there alone.

Sylvester:

And when you say violation, whether?

JasMeka:

that's getting a chick number, getting a guy number, getting too intoxicated and making poor decisions, like when alcohol is in it, our level of discernment it lessens, like it goes down, so we make terrible decisions that people later regret.

JasMeka:

So I think, just putting boundaries in place for the relationship, like I don't like to go out but I'm gonna go out for my man or um, and they listen, if you met him in a club I heard you earlier if you met him in a club and you know they like to go out, then that mean you got a club, that clubber because also need to know we ain't clubbing every night, like them days are over. Like okay, we may be able to go to a party or go to a lounge once a month, twice a month, down for it. But I don't think it's healthy for couples to be in clubs every single day, like I don't care where I met you at, I'm not going in a club every single day and I ain't bashing people that do. If that worked for your relationship, it worked. But I just feel like too much of that energy, like I feel like the clubs come with a, an energy, an unspoken it's the environment.

JasMeka:

It's the environment and being around it every day. It's like, oh, come on now. We toxic. I mean, I'm gonna have to lay in a bed and be like baby. We toxic. I think we toxic. Or do we really like each other, right? Because why we in here every single night?

Sylvester:

Right, can we spend some time?

JasMeka:

Yeah, you don't want to go eat, you don't want to go to the restaurant.

Sylvester:

Without that buffer, right, without the DJ, the millions of people that's in there you know what I'm saying. Without all of these different buffers in between us, what are we really running away from? Maybe that we don't want to address with one another? That's another thing too. It's good to go out on dates with your friends and with other couples Great, terrific thing too. Right, it's good to go out on dates with your friends and with a, you know, with other couples great, terrific um. However, it's also important to spend time just you two.

JasMeka:

absolutely, you know dating, um, because those are actually our best dates, oh, definitely yeah my makeup artist. She was like girl I didn't even know you had friends All I see, is you and your husband.

Sylvester:

I'm like no, I have friends, I promise you I do.

JasMeka:

She was like I'm telling you All I see is you and your husband. I didn't know you had friends. I'm like I got friends. Shout out to my friends, I got some.

Sylvester:

She got some friends, I got some friends.

JasMeka:

I got some friends, I got some friends. But he's my favorite friend and I enjoy us being together. Like when we go out on dates. It's not. I can be myself. I think that's important for people to be able to be they self in boundary, but be able to be yourself when you're out on a date with your spouse. Because what's the point of going on a date if I'm scared to move or I'm scared to dance or I'm afraid to get up? Leave me home.

Sylvester:

Right.

JasMeka:

I could lay in my bed and watch a movie and just don't even take me Like, don't put me in no unnecessary pressure, leave me home, right, and when we leave the party it's gonna be an argument.

Sylvester:

Right.

JasMeka:

We gotta heal.

Sylvester:

We gotta heal.

JasMeka:

We gotta heal.

Sylvester:

Back to healing y'all.

JasMeka:

That's the only way this relationship gonna work is. I work on me to be able to commit, be committed to you If you do the work.

JasMeka:

Not saying I was always there, we grow Right. We grow Right. We grow Because, baby, that extroverted you and I never seen it and I never been in a relationship prior with a person that was an extrovert. It was a challenge for me, right, like, come on now, you're too friendly what you doing, you talking too long Like what's up. But I had too friendly what you're doing, you're talking too long like what's up. But I had to go through that process and you had to learn boundaries as well, because, just being an extrovert, you're like no, she, I just like what she had on and I complimented I pretty. And it's like okay, yeah, it was dragged a little too long, I'm just being honest, y'all, let's just keep it real.

JasMeka:

so it's like it was a challenge for me coming into this relationship. I never dated an extrovert and I know you said earlier, like you know, the opposite sometimes.

Sylvester:

That's right. Nah baby.

JasMeka:

Mm-mm, mm-mm.

Sylvester:

You have any more. Did you give us all the statistics?

JasMeka:

Yeah.

Sylvester:

Okay, all right, well, that's nice. We're yeah, okay, all right, well, that's nice. Um, we're gonna get on this too. I don't even go too deep into it, but we definitely gonna get on it it might be the next episode right might be. Um, just kind of delving into, delving into dating. I don't say dating, I'm gonna say just being married and going out with your single friends. You know what I'm saying but I'll next episode.

JasMeka:

I was ready to, I was ready to let it, I was ready to let it go cause baby. Shout out to my friends they single. But baby, that accountability is real, it's real. I don't even have to speak to the man they stand in front of me like shout out to my friends they single, but baby, that accountability is real, real. I don't even have to speak to the men. They stand in front of me like, nah, not that one.

JasMeka:

But, that's because they love you. I think they know you. They honor our marriage. They believe it's genuine. Let me stop giving that next episode.

Sylvester:

We're on dating right now within a marriage or committed relationship. It's important I like to call it the lifeline. All right, some people say communication is a lifeline of relationships and I agree. However, just like the statistic from whoever that was said, that they found out that 85% of the people who dated within their committed relationship improved communication yeah, right, within the relationship. So communication is the lifeline of relationships. However, better communication comes through dating one another and just knowing each other in these different environments. It's important for you to know your person in a different environment. Just like you said, I was like, oh my God, I've never dated an extrovert, so I had to kind of get used to that and I had to. Yes, that's information that you're still taking in, just like when we were single dating. We're taking information. It's just we're doing process of elimination and we're eliminating people and seeing where our person is right. Just like that, just like inside of a committed relationship we're still taking information on a date.

JasMeka:

Man, listen, something you said earlier. It's like inside of a committed relationship we're still taking information on a date, Something you said earlier. I thought about a couple and, like these little lifeguard things around us, you know, when they throw it out, maybe like grab a hold to it so you can make it out the water and you will say communication is one day, it makes it better.

JasMeka:

It takes a lot to save yourself out of a marriage and hang on to whatever, whether it's communicating, dating, sex, friends, god, like whatever you need to hold on to to save that relationship. That's all I was picturing when you was talking those lifelines, what?

JasMeka:

lifeline do you need? Put it down in the chat. What do you need? Yeah, put it down in the chat. What do you need? Because you may help somebody else. If you go down and say something, somebody may not even thought that, dang, I'm not doing it in my relationship, I can't add it. We are a community of people. We want to help. Hey, y'all might put something in there that we're not doing and be like hey, babe, I need that exactly I need it exactly that was good.

JasMeka:

That was it Exactly. That was good. That was good, that was good, it was good. Sorry, I just had to get it out. I had to get it out.

Sylvester:

It's good. It's good. So, um, it is a lifeline and we want to encourage everybody to date. Like I've actually spoken to people who they don't date and when I ask that question it's like because the question I ask I'm just like, hey, when's the last time, you know, you and your wife went on a date?

JasMeka:

Can we challenge them?

Sylvester:

Can we?

JasMeka:

not discuss this off air. The person or the couple that shared the video a certain amount of times or something we pay for them to go on a date?

Sylvester:

okay, how many times they gotta share what you want them to do, like share a video from the date?

JasMeka:

like share this episode on their social media platform okay, I don't know you went to the media world episode on a social media platform. Okay, I don't know you into the media world Share the episode on the social media platform. Right Because it's like we preaching to the people. It's important for them to date, but some people may be like us and don't have the resources.

Sylvester:

Right, but just like us.

JasMeka:

I'm trying to get you, you got it. I'm trying to get y'all some dollars out of his pocket.

Sylvester:

But you got to show us first, though, that you've, that you've exhausted all your, that you've exhausted all of your resources in regards to doing what you can do already. You know what I'm saying. What is it? This hair, it's like look, you got to show us that you've exhausted all your resources and send us a video. Let us in on it, on those experiences that y'all having together and dating Shoot what Y'all going two dates.

JasMeka:

Well, we'll pay for the third one. Okay, so you're saying they should share this YouTube episode on their Facebook page or Instagram account and then send us a video on how they date Like is it open to? Okay, y'all, don't even worry about the challenge we got to discuss that we're going to get it together.

Sylvester:

We're going to get the challenge together. But, baby, I'm challenged.

JasMeka:

It challenged me to make it work, so it can't work.

Sylvester:

We're gonna get it together, though it can't work right now, but we definitely want to uh, incentivize, um, you guys to. I mean, if, if, if making it work it's not incentive enough, we're gonna give you another incentive. You know what I'm saying, but that should be it. That was enough for me. Like, whatever it's gonna take, enough, we're going to give you another incentive. You know what I'm saying, but that should be it. That was enough for me. Like, whatever it's going to take to make it work. If we got a date, if it's Popeye's in the car, if it's Going to the park for the 50-limb tie.

Sylvester:

Excuse me, sure, if it's going to the park, if it's, you know, whatever it is riding bikes like. Whatever the case it is, let's get that done. And I don't like riding bikes, but we finna do it. I don't like skating. I don't even know how to skate. I'ma fall down. But whatever, we there with some French fries and some chicken fingers.

JasMeka:

So we jumping out the plane.

Sylvester:

We not jumping out the plane. I can't eat chicken tenders and fries. Jumping out the plane, sorry.

JasMeka:

I didn't say nothing about chicken tenders and fries.

Sylvester:

I can't eat a Caesar salad. Jumping out no plane Like I don't know, I just can't.

JasMeka:

You ain't work yourself up to that yet.

Sylvester:

I ain't know yet Maybe we get older, not younger. Maybe let's wait till we older.

JasMeka:

I don't think you gonna do it. You gonna be like my heart.

Sylvester:

Let's wait till we. Oh, my heart gonna stay healthy.

JasMeka:

It gonna stay youthful, okay.

Sylvester:

I ain't, that's not a word for me.

JasMeka:

I'm trying, so um, um yeah, so you're stressing date on your level definitely date on your level date on your level, dating your budget, acknowledge where you are.

JasMeka:

Don't compare what somebody else is. Um, because y'all looking at us now on this level, dating, having fun, taking trips. But baby, there was a level. It won a trip. The trip was to the corner store and for a walk. That was the trip. Or the trip was and for a walk, that was the trip. Or the trip was timeshare. Going on a timeshare and telling the people no, just to get the kids to Orlando, that was the level Good cop, bad cop.

JasMeka:

Good cop, bad cop. We rotated that thing Like, okay, you gonna be the one that say no this trip. I'm gonna be the one that say no the next trip.

Sylvester:

Right, whatever it takes it's, I'm going to be the one that say no to next trip, right, whatever it takes, it's going to work or it's going to work, hey, y'all got to. That's a tip right there. If you don't know, and you early in the game, them little timeshare, little things, where they give you all this, you know, basically paying for your trip, you could take. Take that, it's just that you know, you also agreeing to come sit down with them one morning when you don't want to get out of bed they always feel like the day where they know this look like the day they finna go to Disney World and you gotta get up and go sit with them while they try to sell some time shares to you.

Sylvester:

Look, listen, just good cop, bad cop, who gonna be the scrooge and who gonna be the you know one? That's just more agreeable but don't overdo it, agreeable, cause we ain't walking out of there with no freaking timeshift, but always let the bad cop win and just use him as an excuse. You feel me?

JasMeka:

oh god, who y'all think was the best bad cop?

Sylvester:

definitely feel me, oh God who y'all think was the best backup, definitely this one.

JasMeka:

It's like that you're going to get the biggest monster, tommy. You know the first one be like okay, you could tell me, no, I don't care. Then they bring that second one.

Sylvester:

Like supervisors, they be a little more aggressive.

JasMeka:

Then they bring that second one Like supervisors, they be a little more aggressive.

Sylvester:

Then they bring the manager oh my gosh it be like this. Dude must have got sales rep of the year. 30 years in a row. He coming out spitting what, breaking out nimbus, chopping stuff in half. That thing be looking real good, real good.

JasMeka:

They make you feel like you so poor because the offer he just put on the table you ain't got that right like and then they make you feel like you ain't got that. Nah, I ain't got it, you got it. Stick to your guns, y'all to the gun. It ain't worth it walk out of there.

Sylvester:

They try to get to you for a dollar, don't leave it right there. Okay, don't say we said get a time share. Don't do that, because we ain't paying for no time shell for you and it's gonna take you a long time to try to sell it I'm telling you and we ain't buying it exactly that was fun today was fun we went on a little date yeah

Sylvester:

we dated each other we dated today, right now yeah great, we did a great date ah, yeah, yeah, a Greg date, greg dates, shout out to y'all, man, if you still dating in the crib, um, it's nice man, it's nice so that concludes that concludes this episode. Uh, I think we on episode 13. Yeah, you know, I do all the editing. I was about to say baby 13,. Baby, I do my research, I pray about it.

JasMeka:

I pray for revelation. I sit down and deliver 13, baby On a level that I can deliver. That's how I go. I don't know if this, I know it's over 10 because I celebrated 10. 10 because I celebrated 10. Celebrate the small steps. He's celebrating 13. Let's go. We'll see y'all next week.

Sylvester:

Peace.